Life

Listening in Kindness

Many waters cannot quench charity, neither can the floods drown it: if a man should give all the substance of his house for love, he shall despise it as nothing. Song of Songs 8:7

At the end of being with a person or a group of people, I review in my mind what I have said and how the person reacted and thought about the exchange. I consider an email two to three times before I send it. Admittedly, I have shot off emails, texts, messages without review. The responses felt like backlashes and were surprising. I thought I was a victim. It was my fault. I do these reviews in business and never thought to carry that practice with my family and friends. I now do that too.

I have learned how to evaluate what I have said quickly. I am an extrovert, and that is not always helpful when you are connecting with another person.  Many times ego takes over. I know that I tend to have word vomit and I speak too much. I was not thoughtful of the other person. I forgot to listen with my entire heart and body. Listening is more than just two ears and one mouth. Listening is the most difficult skill to achieve. I am always impressed with people who gauge a person and can empathize with their pain or enjoy their company. My wonderful introverted friends do this so well, and I am learning from them.

My review of a conversational exchange: Did I fully listen? Was I fully engaged? Did I remember to ask if that person needed help? Please learn from my mistakes. I have to keep reminding myself listen, listen, listen. I also have to remember to be kind, be kind, be kind.

 

 

 

business, Life

Culture and Leadership

Does culture affect leadership? Are leadership styles so different in other countries or particular cultures? Does your organization operate as a hierarchy or is it horizontal?

In 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership, Maxwell shares the seven factors of leadership:
Character, Relationships, Knowledge, Intuition, Experience, Past Success, and Ability

In training, it was shared that in another country they are learning that leaders have different factors to be successful. I think that successful leaders have these factors no matter the organization they lead and culture they are from.

There are also different types of leadership styles, and the kind of leadership style can be due to the cultural environment. Many countries have their businesses run within family ties. Many times the business is inherited by the children. The children grow to become the leader of the organization and obtain the above factors through time.

I am drawn to collaborative leadership and servant leadership.  These styles of leadership commit to the group and form a consensus.  Is this effective in different scenarios like making a critical decision?

Which of the seven factors do you have as a successful leader? Do you think that culture affects your leadership style?

 

 

Life

Holidays Colliding

Today is Mardi Gras, Fat Tuesday. Tomorrow is Valentine’s Day and Ash Wednesday. Friday is Chinese New Year. Monday is President’s Day.

It’s holiday overload for an American from Hawaii, in love with my husband, and Catholic.

I’ve been to New Orleans once. It’s a beautiful city, and beautiful people and the city has a dark side too. When I was there, it was after Hurricane Katrina, and many homes were still being rebuilt. Life still went on, and every night there is a party on Bourbon Street.

I’m figuring out what to get my husband for Valentine’s and strategizing a game plan to get my 13-year-old son to mass on a Wednesday. I am thankful I work from home and have my own business. If I were still working in an office, I would have had to get malasadas today, chocolate tomorrow and red envelopes for Friday.

Hopefully, we run into a Chinese lion dance this weekend because I can’t strategize how to drag a 13-year-old to an event with a Chinese lion dance.

My 13-year-old gave me insight. His project this week is to create a poster and write about Barack Obama. At first, I thought, that’s a lot to give a kid and expect a project to be done in a week. Then my next thought was to see President Obama through his eyes. The next thought was to see President Trump through his eyes. He is growing up in a time of extreme change and extreme opinions. I thought the world must be colliding in front of his eyes.

Colliding holidays are minor compared to what he is experiencing.

Next blog: Culture and Leadership

Life

Almost Half a Century (Paris Next Year)

Celebrating 49 years on this earth today. I feel like I’m 25 years old.  My heart and my spirit is light and amazing. I’m in a space where my life is also my purpose. I look forward to creating the message that I’ve been living, growing, and experiencing every year. I hope to serve and be of value to people who are reaching for their dreams and can make an impact in this world.

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In the coming year keep your eyes peeled for a Youtube channel, podcast, webinars, and a book. Eventually, bambooshoot will add on one or two Enrichment Excursions.  Paris is the first excursion that I want all of you t to come with me in 2019. Let’s discover Paris together.

I look back in my 49 years and have had ups an downs along the way.  There have been decisions that I regret and there have been eye opening events.  I am so blessed to be surrounded by supportive friends and family as I trod this journey of becoming a speaker, trainer, and coach.

I have an upcoming training for people who would like to improve their speaking and connecting with their audience: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/from-the-stage-to-synergy-tickets-42800793325?aff=bambooshoot