Life

Listening in Kindness

Many waters cannot quench charity, neither can the floods drown it: if a man should give all the substance of his house for love, he shall despise it as nothing. Song of Songs 8:7

At the end of being with a person or a group of people, I review in my mind what I have said and how the person reacted and thought about the exchange. I consider an email two to three times before I send it. Admittedly, I have shot off emails, texts, messages without review. The responses felt like backlashes and were surprising. I thought I was a victim. It was my fault. I do these reviews in business and never thought to carry that practice with my family and friends. I now do that too.

I have learned how to evaluate what I have said quickly. I am an extrovert, and that is not always helpful when you are connecting with another person.  Many times ego takes over. I know that I tend to have word vomit and I speak too much. I was not thoughtful of the other person. I forgot to listen with my entire heart and body. Listening is more than just two ears and one mouth. Listening is the most difficult skill to achieve. I am always impressed with people who gauge a person and can empathize with their pain or enjoy their company. My wonderful introverted friends do this so well, and I am learning from them.

My review of a conversational exchange: Did I fully listen? Was I fully engaged? Did I remember to ask if that person needed help? Please learn from my mistakes. I have to keep reminding myself listen, listen, listen. I also have to remember to be kind, be kind, be kind.

 

 

 

business

Heart, Head, Hustle

My hustle is my business.  I believe in providing value for a company or a person to improve on what they will potentially become.  I get a kick out of seeing people realize their behaviors and make a change. Their realization may be very minuscule, but I feel it and, I hope it changes them for the better.  When I coach someone or an organization on improving or changing their mindset, I begin to change myself.

I used to thwart evaluation and criticism.  I realize now that it’s feedback.  (I will include on a future blog on how to give empowering feedback and not a destructive feedback,) Feedback is essential after every session and valuable for my next sessions.  Always changing, always improving.

My best way of describing this change is the black dress analogy:  the black dress looks great on you, and when you dress up with the right jewelry (https://www.chloeandisabel.com/boutique/vince) , you shine and sparkle a little bit more.  Same person…enhanced by their beauty.

Along with this hustle, I will use my heart and my head.  My friend Sean Hookano-Briel with Comprendio Inc. (https://www.comprendio.co/) use this tag for their business.  Tweet and post #heartheadhustle

I’m getting better at using my intuition when I’m meeting with a client.  I need to use my head more when it comes to payment processing and offering too much for free.  I use my head to strategizing the best training system for your organization.

I use my heart when I hustle and depend on all the people that support me on this new journey of creating a life that was always waiting for me. Now, I pray before I go into a meeting and pray after a meeting with a client.  I ask God if this is His will, then help me to provide value for this organization or person.

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