One Shoe

There are many questions that people ask me while I am out and about. I would rather have people ask me questions instead of staring or looking up my skirt (yes, that happens). The majority of people think about their questions before they ask. The majority of people are thoughtful when they share their comments about my disability.

Common questions are: How did you lose your leg?Did you try a fake leg before? You must be in pain.Do you drive? How did you have kids?

Then there are other questions and statements: Did you go to school? Your husband must have taken pity on you. Can you dance? My child has the right to stare at you.

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Then there are questions that makes me think a lot. The question about my shoe is a welcome change. The questions are: What do you do with your other shoe? Do you get 50% off when you buy one shoe? Do you get 50% off when you get a pedicure?

Usually, I do not get a discount off of shoes or a pedicure. I do have to buy both shoes. If I don’t buy the other shoe, the store cuts the poor shoe in half and throws the other shoe away. Sometimes I come across a kind manager or a salon owner that offers me a discount.

For years I would throw away my left shoe, then a wonderful woman from my church said that she has a relative who was missing a right leg and may be the same shoe size as me. The divine happened, and we found that we are the same size. Two to three times a year we swap shoes.

In my lifetime, I wish I counted my shoes. I believe I have averaged 5- 6 shoes a year. I would have amassed. 250 left shoes. I wish I kept them too then I would have found another girl or a woman who was missing a right leg or foot that was the same size.

Now I wish to help another girl who is missing a limb and wants to go to college. I will start a foundation later this year. I will keep you updated.

Photo by Aditya Romansa on Unsplash


Thankful vs. Thoughtful

Being grateful and being kind are different processes but can be incorporated with each other.  Gratitude comes in many forms:  a thank you note, recognizing a person for their contribution in a group or tagging them on Facebook, or the reliable goody bag at the end of an event.  Thoughtfulness is similar to thanking by sending a note to say I’m thinking about you, lifting someone up, or giving a person an omiyage (a gift to bring back to family and friends when you have traveled).

I admit it; I am not good at writing in my thankfulness journal.  Honestly, I have written only three things that I am thankful for in that journal.  I have heard that if you write down ten things that you were thankful for that day, you are a much happier person and content with your life. I do pray every day and thank God for three things – the people that I have met, the people I am going to meet, and the people that I will never meet.  He knows the people that He will place in my life are people that will need the gifts that He has given me.

At times I have been thoughtful and thoughtless.  I catch myself and assert what I think people should know, or I’ve been a real jerk and dismissed the person from collaborating with me and missed a golden opportunity.

Sometimes I surprise that person in such a way that I didn’t think my thoughtfulness made a difference.  After 27 years one example has stood out for me. I used to send birthday cards to a lot of people before good old Facebook. I barely knew this person but found out his birthday and his address.  He was amazed and was thankful for that one small act of thoughtfulness.  I didn’t expect anything in return.  I don’t think he knew my birthday or my address.  At that age, everything was freely given, and I wasn’t guarded.

Life happened, and my thankfulness and thoughtfulness have changed.  I think I am more thankful and less thoughtful.  I want to work on having both equal and abundant and not be in competition with one another.

I am thankful for you my readers and joining me on this journey…..

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